Video Interviews To Inspire

These interviews are my way of counteracting some of the negativity in the world and inspiring myself and those who care to watch, what it is like to live an inspired life.  These people have all inspired me in some way to be a better person myself, to pay more attention to what is important every day, and to be grateful for what I have.  As a result already, I have signed up for a writers workshop with Dr. Bonnie Nussbaum, a goal I didn't really expect to happen.  And, I have resurrected an art project outlined in my blog that I let go of due to family needs a few years back.  I need about 3,000 cards of Hope Healing & Happiness to make this project happen.  I'd love to get a card from you too.  Thank you to all I have interviewed so far.

Pat:  Good Morning.  I am Pat Deere, a relationship marketing expert with SendOutCards.  I like to bring a little Hope Healing & Happiness to the world and today I have with Jeff Styers.  Jeff is owner of Arrow Strategies.  He was actually a friend of one of my brothers and we reconnected because of his involvement with something that he does with the high school I went to, Wayne Memorial High School, called the Champions Of Wayne.  So I am going to ask him a few questions, and he is going to share some things and I just hope what he has to say inspires some other people to get involved.  One thing I am going to ask you Jeff, and maybe you can talk about this a little bit down the road, sometimes people may feel because they don’t have the means to do things monetarily or time wise in a big way, you know, what we can do to help out maybe in a small way.  Because everybody can help in a small way, some people can help in a larger way, so kind of keep that in mind.

Jeff:  Sure.

Pat:  I am going to just go ahead and let you introduce yourself, tell us a little bit about who you are, and what you do.

Jeff:  I am the founder and CEO of Arrow Strategies.  We are a national contract staffing firm here in Southfield, MI with offices across the country.  But, my real passion is in giving back.  The neighborhood I am from has a lot of need today so both with my wife, Lisa, and myself we look to give back.  And, I think that trying to give back to where you are from has special impact and special meaning because you are so deeply rooted to that area.  So, we give back in a lot of different ways but I think when we give back to where we are from it has the most impact for us.

Pat:  So, I know you mentioned your wife, Lisa.  And, we grew up in a pretty unique neighborhood.  We call ourselves “The Parkwood Girls”.  We still kind of connect with each other today and it is pretty awesome.  Actually, I got to reconnect with you because of the Champions Of Wayne banquet my sister invited me to.  I guess, my questions are Hope Healing & Happiness.  Where do you find Hope?  Let’s start with that.

Jeff:  I think Hope is what you make it.  So it is internal first.  But, I see it, having just attended the most recent Champions of Wayne banquet… I see Hope in the youth of today.  And I see Hope when they overcome adversity.  And, they overcome a life track that seems destined for doom.  But, through their Hope they are able to turn their circumstances around.  And, whenever I hear these stories, it reinstills in me the Hope that you see every day when you see a stranger does random acts of kindness for another without expecting any repayment.  I mean, seeing that in today’s dark world are all little glimmers of light that we can take Hope in.

Pat:  Exactly.  When I went to the banquet there were three different stories that I heard.  Actually, I heard a lot of stories but can you share one story that you think will help people understand what it is that the kids get out of it?

Jeff:  Yeah.  I just heard one last week.  A young girl who is one of thirteen, mom is a drug addict.  Dad is not in her life.  Her four siblings that are older than her have all been expelled from the school she is attending currently and she was in a lot of trouble.  She had a 0.7 GPA and school just wasn’t important to her.  She was skipping a lot. And, through the Champions program, just hearing that one person, a teacher, a mentor at this school who said “I believe in you, and the trajectory you are on is leading to despair.”, and here is your opportunity to change things around.  She has done that and went from a 0.7 GPA to a 3.7 GPA.  She is graduating.  She has a full ride scholarship to Michigan State University.

Pat:  Wow.

Jeff:  She is positive.  She is delightful.  Very insightful as far as her shortcomings previously and how she changed that around and how she might help others as she goes forward.  And, stories like that are just very inspirational.

Pat:  So that’s part of the Healing.  That is what I see in the Healing part.  Specifically, how did that happen for her?

Jeff:  You know, I do a lot of speaking and I like anything in life it comes from a pivot point internally when you just stop and “decide” that you are going to behave and think and do things differently than you have done them before.  For her, when she looked back at it she said she couldn’t really pin where my anger was coming from.  I really couldn’t pin why I was as negative as I was about life.  But, the minute my mentor challenged me and I “decided”.  There is that word, decided, to change things I did.

I think we all have that opportunity.  And, it comes from that internal switch when we “decide” first that we are going to be different.  And, I think it has to start with that simple decision.

Pat:  So, she did start with that decision but there is also a program in place that allows her to either be involved or not to be involved.

Jeff:  Absolutely. You know one of the hits that the Champions Of Wayne program takes is, it is kind of a pay to play program.  So, these kids get a $200 check if they are able to hit their goal.  And, I am not for that either.  But, here is what I have found.  That is just the hook.  That is just the hook to get a teenage kid in today’s world interested in a program to do something differently.  To be more formalized.  But, what the program is really about is the fact that everybody in the high school, from the janitor to the principal, are mentors.  And, for many of these kids, they haven’t had somebody who has cared about what their future looks like other than these mentors.  And, once they find that person and understand that somebody does believe in them, that’s what enables them to make that internal decision.

Pat:  Exactly.  And I think it is so easy to take it for granted.  That everybody has that.  And, our kids are lucky that they do have that but not all kids are in that situation and there is so, so many.  Actually, there are so many program like this.  So many programs like what you are involved in that I think take a back stage to the negativity in the world and that’s really why I wanted to do some of these interviews.  So, Happiness.  That is probably a pretty easy thing, but where do you find Happiness?   I know you have kind of eluded to that already.

Jeff:  You know Happiness.  Again.  I think your three words are all brilliantly simplistic yet brilliantly complicated.  Happiness I also believe is an internal decision, right?  Some people take things for granted and others count blessings in the little things.  You know, I have always run very fast in my life.  You know, as a professional boxer and then as a business owner, you know I have always wanted to get to the next stage.  And, when you do that you rob yourself of the simplicity of life.  And, that is where I thing Happiness lies.  So it’s waking up and hearing birds chirping.  It’s observing a tree in your front yard that you might have looked at for years but not in the way you do this morning.  It’s about every interaction you have with people throughout your day.  I think Happiness lies in the little things if you allow it to.  I think in today’s world we get a little desensitized about having to have the big things to make us happy and that’s just not the case.

Pat:  Um hmm.  I agree.  I absolutely agree.  So one other thing I want to ask you is what do you do consistently, every day, that helps you in your life.  Personal, business, doesn’t matter.  I ask this because I was not a person of consistency and I realized that it really helps me to be consistent.

Jeff:  Maybe it’s over simplistic, but I pray.  I start every day with prayers.  There is a sticky note on my computer on my desk that says “Pray”.  So, sometimes when I get busy and I forget I just have to pray.  And I find when I do, 1) for guidance and, 2) for gratitude, when I do that my day is just more balanced.  The days that I get too hurried and I forget to do that, I later find myself a little stressed or disjointed.  And when I go back to prayer, it is always kind of a reset button for me to move back onto the right path.

Pat:  Um hmm.  I can totally relate to that one too.  So, to end with, how can people get a hold of you from a business standpoint, which we really didn’t talk about much, or for the Champions Of Wayne.  What can people do, personally?

Jeff:  Well, whether it is for the Champions or a pursuit of your own desire, I think, involvement.  Just putting yourself out there.  You know, if you think about Champions, fortunately myself and Rich Helppie who help fund the program it would be great to have a community to help us monetarily but that’s really not the biggest need.  The biggest need is mentors.  And, if you think about it, that’s just your time.  So, whether it is with the Champions or a pursuit of your own, just get involved.  Many times, that doesn’t mean that a single cent has to leave your pocket.  I think the most impactful involvement you can have is just being there for someone.  So, whether it is a family member, an estranged friend, or a complete stranger – whoever it is, just be there for people.  I think that is the biggest thing you can do.

Pat:  That’s a great point.  Thank you so much.  I have some contact information for you down here. If there is anything else you want me to add, let me know.  When we get off the call I will get information on the Champions Of Wayne so people can take a look at that as well.  But, I just want to thank you so much.  I want to thank you for sharing this positive, impactful thing that is going on that I think so many people are unaware of.  And I really appreciate that you do it and that you have taken the time to share that with me today.

Jeff:  Absolutely.  Thank you for your time.

 

LINKS:

Champions of Wayne:  http://www.championsofwayne.org/

Complete Story of the Champions of Wayne (Must Watch):  https://youtu.be/7FopHaqiV3c

Arrow Strategies:  http://arrowstrategies.com/

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To contact Pat Deere:  517 667-0537  Pat.PLDeere@gmail.com   www.PLDeere.com

Good Morning.  This is Pat Deere and I am a relationship marketing expert with SendOutCards.  I have been doing these interviews of Hope Healing and Happiness to counteract some of the negativity around us.  It was kind of fun.  I ran into somebody I knew from my church when she was younger, and I was raising my kids.  We kind of reconnected and Catherine is my guest today.

Thank you for having me.  I am Catherine Sala I am an attorney in downtown Adrian I’ve been in private practice for 10 years.  I have been doing some mediations for the last four or five years probably and that has taken me down a different road and at this point I’m also running for Probate Court Judge against the sitting Judge, Gregg Iddings.  That’s keeping me busy and yes I know you from St. Joseph’s Shrine in the Irish Hills and it’s a pleasure to get to know you on a different level.  I’m a little taller, slightly.

It’s fun to reconnect for sure.  So let’s just go ahead and get into where do you see Hope?

So much of my life has been devoted to my education and also my career.  I’m 35 and I have been an attorney for 10 years.  I am in my 10th year.   I went to Lenawee Christian, graduated from there, went to Western, and then to Cooley.  I just got right down and started practice  with my dad so I do a lot of family law and I didn’t start out that way but that’s sort of where my path has lead me.

I do a ton of divorce cases, abuse and neglect cases, custody cases and it’s rewarding because it’s a place where I can step into a situation where somebody is in a crisis or the family is in crisis or transition and try to offer them some Hope that what’s happening is not the end of the world.  It doesn’t have to be a destructive, totally destructive process.  It can just be a series of changes that can really be opportunities.  Part of the reason I got into mediation and some of these alternative dispute resolution processes is because it’s easier on families.  It’s more focused on problem-solving rather than the conflict itself which sometimes in litigation is really – that’s a lot of what people complain about.  We are really good at taking families apart.  We really are not good at putting them back together.  Or teaching them how to function once we have deconstructed them. So these processes of mediation and some parenting time coordination and stuff is really Hopeful for the future.  Where do we go from here?  We know we have to get the divorce but we have got these kids together and we love our kids.  And you know it’s all about finding that common goal and using the tools available to you to help the next generation.  And that’s really brought a lot of Hope to an area of the law that can be really depressing and difficult for families and for litigants.

You know that’s really kind of interesting and it’s going to take me into the Healing question.  How do you find Healing?  Are you a part of that process then?  Is that what you find?

Yes.  I’m always very much involved in my cases and sort of with the people that come into my life no matter where they are.  So helping them here during the process has always been sort of a Healing process for me too.

Before on a personal level and we have talked about this before, on a personal level what I love is yoga.   So we go to the church and we have all of the people in our lives that are good for us and help during the process of Healing.  That’s a really great physical way to bring inner peace and refocus and certainly try to shut out some of the noise.  And that allows that process of Healing to take place for me.

Exactly.  And you know you said that is on a personal level but what I find is that all of these questions I am asking absolutely goes into our business life as well.  You know if we are not doing well on a personal level, we are not doing well in our business either.  And I absolutely have to do similar things for myself to keep me focused and on track.  So Happiness… when do you find the most Happiness?

Outdoors.  I love to be outside and we live in Michigan right so that’s not always the easiest process but if you got the guts to bundle up and get out there then it’s a really rewarding, Happy place to be.   It’s beautiful.  I live on the lake, on Devils Lake.  I want to wake up and look at that water.  I’ve got so many windows across the front of my house because it’s just an amazing feeling to be able to look out there and see that peaceful process of the diving ducks.  It’s just an amazing place to be if you can get outside and sit on the deck and share that with people you love as well.  That’s what makes me really Happy.

You know it’s fun because we talked about this previously too about how Michigan weather can sometimes be problematic and even though it was really cold and snowy and rainy the other day I got out I went hiking anyway.  Yesterday it was snowing and it’s just, it’s just something we deal with and if we don’t embrace what you have around you, that makes it hard to enjoy it.  I think it’s good that you recognize that.

Lastly, what do you do consistently, whether it is in your business life or your personal life every day that helps you in some way?  And, you might have answered part of that already.

Well my days change constantly.  So I am in private practice.  I’m self employed.  My day can start going right into court hearings or client meetings or just office work.  And the campaign is taking me into the community for different community events that are amazing but they can be kind of a whirlwind of things.  So what I try to do as part of that process is, good, bad, or otherwise, my mind has always sort of been very analytical as far as I try to make sure that whatever it is I’m doing I am being true to myself and bringing my authentic self to whatever situation I am in.   I mean everything I’m doing is putting myself out there to try to honestly and authentically engage with other people.  I’m in the business of people.  That’s what my practice is.  So, as much as I can I just try to make sure that I am being me when I’m out there running around like a chick with it’s head cut off.

I hear you.  You know that is where that Hope Healing and Happiness came for me.  When we were going through a process in a workshop I had been to and they kept asking.  Who are you?  Who are you?  And Hope, Healing, and Happiness is what I try to bring to people and I like the fact that you talked about being your authentic self.  Because when you do that, you know, that’s who you are.  Whether you are in your personal or your business life and people know who you really are that way.

The other thing I want to share with you is about the project I am working towards for ArtPrize in Grand Rapids where I need people to share 2,000 cards of their stories of Hope, Healing, and Happiness with me so I hope you can do that too.

But, tell us how people can get a hold of you.

Great.  I have a good Facebook page. I like Facebook.  I love to connect with people on Facebook.  I’ve got a campaign page out there on Facebook as well so that’s a great a great way to contact me.  I also have an office in downtown Adrian right on Main Street.  You know I did want to share with you one other thing and he (her dog) kind of jumped down for a minute.  So this is also a really good example of what makes me Happy every day.  This is Bruiser.  So he is one of the reasons that I brave the elements.

I love it.  I’m guessing he is not always that quiet.

He’s pretty good.  He always has to check out and see who comes in the door.  He has to go investigate, but, for the most part he is pretty good.  I don’t know if the neighbors would agree with me, you know.

Thank you Catherine.

 

Catherine Sala, Attorney At Law

Website: catherinesala.com

Email: salacenator@gmail.com

Phone:  1-517-438-8223

 

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I am an integrative nutrition health coach. I am a self-published author. I work part time for a non-profit as a contractor and I'm the COO of a family of four. And so life is busy. Life is very busy.  And as a health coach, I really work to support women in their forties who have just become overwhelmed. To read more:  LizaBaker transcribed HHH interivew pdf

 

 

Hope Healing & Happiness with

Doug Lauffer - Author, Minister, Professor, eLearning

Doug is an inspiration to many people whether in business or in family life. His ideas of Hope Healing and Happiness in his life changed due to life circumstances.

“ This is the best time EVER to be alive.  Ever.  We just need to be more generous and kind, and it can happen.” 

~Doug Lauffer

To read Doug's entire interview:

Doug is a Professor, Minister, Author, and eLearning Professional.

From Pennsylvania, we met while I was in PA on business and have stayed in touch ever since.

Thank you Pat it’s a delight to be with you today.  Coming from sunny Western PA., where we always say the people are friendly and the children above average. To take a phrase from Lake Wobegon.  My grandfather Miller, his name was Thomas Miller.  After church on Sunday’s as we group up.  We would be riding home, they would let me out of the car and I would run into the little store and I would say, T. M. Miller, New York Times.  Now, as a child I didn’t realize even what I was saying until I grew older, and of course, I understood that I was getting and collecting the newspaper for them.  But, his middle name was Morrison.  He was born and raised in Scotland, in a little town called Gobin.  He was a ship pattern maker for large ships.  He was recruited by Westinghouse to come to America.  Now my grandfather in addition to being a draftsperson for the Westinghouse Engineering Company, he was also an artist.  I had art all around me in my life as a result of grandfather Miller.  That’s a cover art that my son drew for Victoria Hegi on a children’s book called, Izzy The Shy Inchworm.  These are all the draft pieces of artwork that eventually she had a few artists working on things and he made some money but he didn’t make the cut.  But, anyways, it’s just interesting to know this and to be involved in it.  And in fact here we have an art gallery, it’s called Gallery 185 now.  In fact I brought the guest book to the office with me so I could look at the people who have been coming to the gallery and I could send them cards.  And, that’s grand father Miller.  He was a Scotsman too.  I was raised by him until I was about 10 or 11 years old. It’s for that, that I have short arms but deep pockets.  In fact I don’t have any pockets.  I have a kilt that I keep in the boot of my car and I have my treasures in the little pouch that the Scotsmen have on their kilts.  My grand mother is Laura.  She too is quite artistic and she encouraged me to dance as a youth.  Since my aunt was a ballerina, I was inspired by her and I too wanted to become a ballerina so they would make little stages, and I would stand up and perform until I was about 11 years old when I realized what the men wear!  In ballet.  So I immediately said, no thank you, and I pursued sports then.  But that early training in ballet has served me very well in life.  Then my name is Douglas Kenneth Lauffer.  And, Kenneth on my dad’s side.  He had a Studebaker garage.  He sold Studebakers and I was such a fan of Studebakers, of course, when I was growing up.  Then about that same time I discovered I was not going to be a ballerina, my father came home from work and he announced at the dinner table, Douglas Kenneth, Studebaker is going out of business.  And, he knew I would cry and fuss and I said, Say it ain’t so daddy.  And he said yes, it’s so.  However there will always be STP.  That’s Studebaker Treatment Petroleum, the racers edge.  And that gave me great consolation.  His wife was Margaret Deviney Lauffer.  French and Italian.  And, she became in the first class at the University Of Pennsylvania, State Teachers School.  Before it was University, before it was actually college. And she became one of the first women graduates of that school.  And around here somewhere I have her licensed certificate of her being a teacher.  And, she too inspired me.  In fact even in college I changed my bulletin board every month to have, I’m looking forward to putting the shamrocks up in a few weeks.  When asked about his grandparents, Doug said, I talk about them all the time.

Our oldest, they live in Florida.  He travels quite a bit for his job.  I lament that they are there and not closer to home.  The next children live in Leesburg, VA.  I lament that they are there and not closer to home.  My son, Brent M. Lauffer lives with us right now and he is the one that received the liver and the kidney transplant last year.  And I just overheard him the other day asking about getting an apartment in our area.  So, it looks like he wants to stay near us even though he would much rather be in a warmer climate.  He used to live in Atlanta prior to his transplants.  And then our youngest lives in a Precinct in the city of Pittsburgh and we get to see them quite often.  But, I agree with you Pat that the extended family and grandparents have a great roll to play and I lament that day that that sort of went away in the United States of America.  But, I feel it’s gone full circle now and I think people are cycling back to wanting to spend more time with Grandma and Grandpa.

When asked about the process of going through something like a transplant, like I walked through with my friend Kelly and Doug walked through with his son, he responded:

One of our projects has been the books that I authored.  I have authored many, many books.  And ones that are popular and a best seller on Amazon two times and we are hoping to become the third, with my favorite in the anthologies that I lead and write about fatherhood is, Godly Men Make Godly Fathers.  And in America and in the organizations with which we are associated with, many times “Father” is a non-starter in conversation because unfortunately, a lot of times people had bad father child relationships and there is still bitterness and unforgiveness.  But we have a series of probably 15 men that have written in Godly Men Make Godly Fathers of all different backgrounds and socioeconomic levels.  And, each one of their stories is inspiring and we really believe that anybody can find a story in that book that will not only inspire them but to help themselves and also to help others who art still struggling with authority and parents and particularly, father.  And, my second book on this is called, Go Ask Your Dad.  Because most of the people when they used to ask their fathers things,  for permission for example, the dad would say, “Go ask your mom.”.  So we turned that to, Go ask your dad.  And, there are a bunch of great stories in that.  And the first one is called, The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood.  And, all of these, I used as my platform to promote and ask people to pray for my son and to support him in his charitable foundation for his catastrophic illness and the impact it has had on him and all of us financially.  So he has been successful at raising I think about $72,000.  His goal is $180,000.  And he continues to work on the campaign.  He has tremendous and terrific art.  He has a page on his Facebook with his art, and people give him money or they’ll donate and he’ll send them a painting or print.  He has probably raised about $21,000 from that so far.  For an artist, that is pretty good.  Vicky and I have an art gallery.  You know, people don’t wake up in the morning and say you know I think I’m going to buy a painting today.

Where do you see Hope in the worldHow do you find Healing?  When do you feel Happiness?

This is a word that we have thought about for decades, my wife and me when we were pioneer missionaries in Africa.  You know we had the Hope that we would be able to translate the New Testament and have the chance to share Christ to the extent that they would be able to flourish and have their own indigenous church and so forth, so that was our Hope.  But, that Hope has been deferred in many ways and it has been fulfilled in many ways.  I fell gravely ill and we had to de-mission from the missionary society.  So when we came home we had to create new Hopes.  Our original career Hope was to learn three languages, translate the Bible 3 times.  Well, God fulfilled some of these things in incredible ways.  We have had churches that we’ve Pastored that were very missions minded.  We have had companies, some have been successful and some haven’t been.  But, Hope that’s deferred, once it’s fulfilled makes the heart Happy.  For me, seeing the Hopes fulfilled has brought Healing to my heart.  The Healing of sadness me. The Healing of maybe failure if you please.  You know it wasn’t our fault but you know things happen.  And then finally, the Happiness and joy that we have.  Here at the college we have a woman 40 years old.  She is studying licensed practical nursing here.  She is from Rwanda, and that country went through a horrible, horrible, ethnic cleansing and genocide.  She survived that.  And, lived through that.  She saw thousands of people murdered.  In fact, I think it’s between 800,000 and 1 million people murdered there.  But, she came to this college to get her licensed practical nursing so she can go back and bring Haling to her people.  And, now she’s back again because she wants to get her registered nursing and then go back and not only to nursing but begin to do community health education.  So you can see that we were not able to finish our work in Senegal, NW Africa but we have done something like this already in Uganda through the Uganda Christian University and now we are going to have this opportunity, working on a plan for a large scale project that is going to be rolled out in 3, 5, 8, and 10 year plan to see this through.  It takes a lot of patience.  So that, Patty, is my Hope, that’s my Healing, and that’s my Happiness.  Kind of explained in a nutshell.

What do you do consistently every day that helps you in some way?

Upon rising, at this age I don’t need coffee any more.  But, I do need prayer in the morning.  So I have a discipline of  prayer and meditation and scripture reading.  The meditation is that I do the Jesus prayer.  And that is:  Lord Jesus Christ have mercy upon me, the sinner. Lord Jesus Christ son of God, Savior, have mercy upon me, the sinner.  And, I try to have about 20 minutes to pray that prayer to still and center myself, and try to rid myself of fragmentation by center on God.  On Christ Jesus.  And, I have a severe case of PTSD.  And that’s helping in my healing to.  And, then we have many people for whom we pray, Vicky and I do.  And, then we read the Bible together and see Gods wisdom, His inspiration for our day.  And this is something that she has always done and I was a person of quite high energy and some of these things were like, Good morning God.  I’m here.  And, I need your help.  Let’s go.  But, now at this point in my life this is working for me and I need that.  I need that.

Links for Doug and his son, Brent:

Brent Jacques Paintings:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/485682414811979/

Brent Lauffer's Help Hope Live website:  https://helphopelive.org/campaign/5201     http://www.douglauffer.com/

Doug's Amazon website:  https://www.amazon.com/Doug-Lauffer/e/B00WJ1Z79W

Hope Healing & Happiness with

Doug Lauffer - Author, Minister, Professor, eLearning

Doug is an inspiration to many people whether in business or in family life. His ideas of Hope Healing and Happiness in his life changed due to life circumstances.

“ This is the best time EVER to be alive.  Ever.  We just need to be more generous and kind, and it can happen.” 

~Doug Lauffer

To read Doug's entire interview:

Doug is a Professor, Minister, Author, and eLearning Professional.

From Pennsylvania, we met while I was in PA on business and have stayed in touch ever since.

Thank you Pat it’s a delight to be with you today.  Coming from sunny Western PA., where we always say the people are friendly and the children above average. To take a phrase from Lake Wobegon.  My grandfather Miller, his name was Thomas Miller.  After church on Sunday’s as we group up.  We would be riding home, they would let me out of the car and I would run into the little store and I would say, T. M. Miller, New York Times.  Now, as a child I didn’t realize even what I was saying until I grew older, and of course, I understood that I was getting and collecting the newspaper for them.  But, his middle name was Morrison.  He was born and raised in Scotland, in a little town called Gobin.  He was a ship pattern maker for large ships.  He was recruited by Westinghouse to come to America.  Now my grandfather in addition to being a draftsperson for the Westinghouse Engineering Company, he was also an artist.  I had art all around me in my life as a result of grandfather Miller.  That’s a cover art that my son drew for Victoria Hegi on a children’s book called, Izzy The Shy Inchworm.  These are all the draft pieces of artwork that eventually she had a few artists working on things and he made some money but he didn’t make the cut.  But, anyways, it’s just interesting to know this and to be involved in it.  And in fact here we have an art gallery, it’s called Gallery 185 now.  In fact I brought the guest book to the office with me so I could look at the people who have been coming to the gallery and I could send them cards.  And, that’s grand father Miller.  He was a Scotsman too.  I was raised by him until I was about 10 or 11 years old. It’s for that, that I have short arms but deep pockets.  In fact I don’t have any pockets.  I have a kilt that I keep in the boot of my car and I have my treasures in the little pouch that the Scotsmen have on their kilts.  My grand mother is Laura.  She too is quite artistic and she encouraged me to dance as a youth.  Since my aunt was a ballerina, I was inspired by her and I too wanted to become a ballerina so they would make little stages, and I would stand up and perform until I was about 11 years old when I realized what the men wear!  In ballet.  So I immediately said, no thank you, and I pursued sports then.  But that early training in ballet has served me very well in life.  Then my name is Douglas Kenneth Lauffer.  And, Kenneth on my dad’s side.  He had a Studebaker garage.  He sold Studebakers and I was such a fan of Studebakers, of course, when I was growing up.  Then about that same time I discovered I was not going to be a ballerina, my father came home from work and he announced at the dinner table, Douglas Kenneth, Studebaker is going out of business.  And, he knew I would cry and fuss and I said, Say it ain’t so daddy.  And he said yes, it’s so.  However there will always be STP.  That’s Studebaker Treatment Petroleum, the racers edge.  And that gave me great consolation.  His wife was Margaret Deviney Lauffer.  French and Italian.  And, she became in the first class at the University Of Pennsylvania, State Teachers School.  Before it was University, before it was actually college. And she became one of the first women graduates of that school.  And around here somewhere I have her licensed certificate of her being a teacher.  And, she too inspired me.  In fact even in college I changed my bulletin board every month to have, I’m looking forward to putting the shamrocks up in a few weeks.  When asked about his grandparents, Doug said, I talk about them all the time.

Our oldest, they live in Florida.  He travels quite a bit for his job.  I lament that they are there and not closer to home.  The next children live in Leesburg, VA.  I lament that they are there and not closer to home.  My son, Brent M. Lauffer lives with us right now and he is the one that received the liver and the kidney transplant last year.  And I just overheard him the other day asking about getting an apartment in our area.  So, it looks like he wants to stay near us even though he would much rather be in a warmer climate.  He used to live in Atlanta prior to his transplants.  And then our youngest lives in a Precinct in the city of Pittsburgh and we get to see them quite often.  But, I agree with you Pat that the extended family and grandparents have a great roll to play and I lament that day that that sort of went away in the United States of America.  But, I feel it’s gone full circle now and I think people are cycling back to wanting to spend more time with Grandma and Grandpa.

When asked about the process of going through something like a transplant, like I walked through with my friend Kelly and Doug walked through with his son, he responded:

One of our projects has been the books that I authored.  I have authored many, many books.  And ones that are popular and a best seller on Amazon two times and we are hoping to become the third, with my favorite in the anthologies that I lead and write about fatherhood is, Godly Men Make Godly Fathers.  And in America and in the organizations with which we are associated with, many times “Father” is a non-starter in conversation because unfortunately, a lot of times people had bad father child relationships and there is still bitterness and unforgiveness.  But we have a series of probably 15 men that have written in Godly Men Make Godly Fathers of all different backgrounds and socioeconomic levels.  And, each one of their stories is inspiring and we really believe that anybody can find a story in that book that will not only inspire them but to help themselves and also to help others who art still struggling with authority and parents and particularly, father.  And, my second book on this is called, Go Ask Your Dad.  Because most of the people when they used to ask their fathers things,  for permission for example, the dad would say, “Go ask your mom.”.  So we turned that to, Go ask your dad.  And, there are a bunch of great stories in that.  And the first one is called, The Unofficial Guide to Fatherhood.  And, all of these, I used as my platform to promote and ask people to pray for my son and to support him in his charitable foundation for his catastrophic illness and the impact it has had on him and all of us financially.  So he has been successful at raising I think about $72,000.  His goal is $180,000.  And he continues to work on the campaign.  He has tremendous and terrific art.  He has a page on his Facebook with his art, and people give him money or they’ll donate and he’ll send them a painting or print.  He has probably raised about $21,000 from that so far.  For an artist, that is pretty good.  Vicky and I have an art gallery.  You know, people don’t wake up in the morning and say you know I think I’m going to buy a painting today.

Where do you see Hope in the worldHow do you find Healing?  When do you feel Happiness?

This is a word that we have thought about for decades, my wife and me when we were pioneer missionaries in Africa.  You know we had the Hope that we would be able to translate the New Testament and have the chance to share Christ to the extent that they would be able to flourish and have their own indigenous church and so forth, so that was our Hope.  But, that Hope has been deferred in many ways and it has been fulfilled in many ways.  I fell gravely ill and we had to de-mission from the missionary society.  So when we came home we had to create new Hopes.  Our original career Hope was to learn three languages, translate the Bible 3 times.  Well, God fulfilled some of these things in incredible ways.  We have had churches that we’ve Pastored that were very missions minded.  We have had companies, some have been successful and some haven’t been.  But, Hope that’s deferred, once it’s fulfilled makes the heart Happy.  For me, seeing the Hopes fulfilled has brought Healing to my heart.  The Healing of sadness me. The Healing of maybe failure if you please.  You know it wasn’t our fault but you know things happen.  And then finally, the Happiness and joy that we have.  Here at the college we have a woman 40 years old.  She is studying licensed practical nursing here.  She is from Rwanda, and that country went through a horrible, horrible, ethnic cleansing and genocide.  She survived that.  And, lived through that.  She saw thousands of people murdered.  In fact, I think it’s between 800,000 and 1 million people murdered there.  But, she came to this college to get her licensed practical nursing so she can go back and bring Haling to her people.  And, now she’s back again because she wants to get her registered nursing and then go back and not only to nursing but begin to do community health education.  So you can see that we were not able to finish our work in Senegal, NW Africa but we have done something like this already in Uganda through the Uganda Christian University and now we are going to have this opportunity, working on a plan for a large scale project that is going to be rolled out in 3, 5, 8, and 10 year plan to see this through.  It takes a lot of patience.  So that, Patty, is my Hope, that’s my Healing, and that’s my Happiness.  Kind of explained in a nutshell.

What do you do consistently every day that helps you in some way?

Upon rising, at this age I don’t need coffee any more.  But, I do need prayer in the morning.  So I have a discipline of  prayer and meditation and scripture reading.  The meditation is that I do the Jesus prayer.  And that is:  Lord Jesus Christ have mercy upon me, the sinner. Lord Jesus Christ son of God, Savior, have mercy upon me, the sinner.  And, I try to have about 20 minutes to pray that prayer to still and center myself, and try to rid myself of fragmentation by center on God.  On Christ Jesus.  And, I have a severe case of PTSD.  And that’s helping in my healing to.  And, then we have many people for whom we pray, Vicky and I do.  And, then we read the Bible together and see Gods wisdom, His inspiration for our day.  And this is something that she has always done and I was a person of quite high energy and some of these things were like, Good morning God.  I’m here.  And, I need your help.  Let’s go.  But, now at this point in my life this is working for me and I need that.  I need that.

Links for Doug and his son, Brent:

Brent Jacques Paintings:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/485682414811979/

Brent Lauffer's Help Hope Live website:  https://helphopelive.org/campaign/5201     http://www.douglauffer.com/

Doug's Amazon website:  https://www.amazon.com/Doug-Lauffer/e/B00WJ1Z79W

Hope Healing & Happiness with

Karen Walworth - Travel Consultant, Lifetime Memory Designer

Karen lives Hope Healing and Happiness in her life and through her work. Planning trips of a lifetime designed for each person is Karen's specialty.

"You might be a little surprised to hear I have a tattoo?  I have a tattoo of a lotus flower and I chose the lotus flower because it blooms fresh every single day.  And so it is like a brand new beginning.   ~Karen Walworth

 

To read Karen's entire interview:

Karen Walworth

Hello Pat.  I’m so glad to spend time with you today.  Yes I am a travel consultant.  I help people with their trips that are leisure type trips, vacations.  And, it brings me a lot of joy to be able to plan very special situations for people where they can really have a type of experience that is going to make an impact in their life.  That they are going to come back from their trips feeling changed and a better person than maybe before they left.

Where do you see Hope in the world?

Well, actually I see Hope in a lot of small ways.  With everything that is going on in the world right now it’s easy to get kind of wrapped up in that.  But if you kind of take a step back and you look at the small parts of what we live every single day, there is a lot of Hope around us.  Something as small as a teacher staying after to help a small child so they can do better in school, or a neighbor helping their elderly neighbor shovel their driveway after a big snow storm.  Those small things make a big difference.  I belong to a local Rotary Club and I’m so proud to be part of that group because they help people around the world and our local community and it just reaffirms that those are the things that really matter.

How do you find Healing?

Well.  I think everyone does it a little different.  You have to kind of know yourself.  And so what I have found for myself in Healing is I need a little down time here and there.  So if I am travelling on vacation, taking a walk alone along the beach, going and visiting a church on my own, or if I am at home taking a long hot bath and just sitting back and relaxing and being able to reset.   So when I am done and I am hitting the world again it is like with a fresh attitude.

Well everyone is a little different in what makes them Happy.  So, a big part of what I do is to try to uncover that.  Dig in deep and make sure that what I help them discover when they are travelling is something that is really going to impact them.  Whether it is like the picture here, that’s in St. John, right off St. Thomas, in the U.S. Virgin Islands or whether it’s the most beautiful beach in the world that you are snorkeling in, or if you are walking down a cobblestone street and that makes you Happy, I want to help that person experience that.  So when they are enjoying their vacation, it is the best possible vacation it can be.  In small doses any type of trip can be a luxury trip.  It’s just that impactful type of experience that you allow yourself to have and really embrace that makes a big difference.

What do you do find Happiness? 

It’s not a surprise that I love travelling.  Not just planning trips for others but also being able to plan a trip for myself.  My favorite types of vacations are the historical ones.  Going over to Europe and walking into a city that is centuries years old.  And knowing that people walked down that street thousands of years before I did.  And, discovering new things.  You know, walking around the corner and you see a beautiful fountain.  And you see a statue.  And it’s just moving to me and it makes me Happy all the way down to my core.  My Happiest place is Positano, Italy.  It’s just a magical, wonderful place.  I am smiling, grinning, ear to ear the entire time I am there.  And I can’t wait to go back this September.

What do you do consistently every day that helps you in some way?

This was a tough one.  Actually what I really like to do is I get up early.  I am a morning person.  I like the early morning time when you just starting a fresh brand new day.  And you can’t do anything about what happened yesterday.  It’s already done.  It’s behind you.  But, today and tomorrow you can impact.  And so, I like the mornings.  It’s a brand new reset. And, you might be a little surprised to hear I have a tattoo?  I have a tattoo of a lotus flower and I chose the lotus flower because it blooms fresh every single day.  And so it is like a brand new beginning.  A brand new fresh start that you are able to have.  And, that is something that gets me centered and makes sure that I start my day right.

How can people get a hold of you?

The best way would be my cell phone but my contact info is below:

Phone:  734-780-6230

Website:  www.SideStreetTravel.com

Email:  Karen@SideStreetTravel.com

Linked In:  Karen (Ward) Walworth

Hope Healing & Happiness with

Kate Bancroft - Author, Coach, Speaker

As an author of two best sellers, Stepping Into Courage, and Endurance, interviewing Kate was inspiring to me.  She sees Hope everywhere, finds Healing in speaking, and finds Happiness to be a choice and responsibility. .

"We have to make time for ourselves every single morning before we start our day if we want our day to go better, if we want us to be better that day.   ~Kate Bancroft

 

To read Kate's entire interview:

I am an author.  I have two books that are out, both with best sellers. Stepping Into Courage, and Endurance and my third book coming out in three weeks is on Reigniting Hope so this is a good topic for me to talk to you about.

Where do you see Hope in the world?

Actually Pat, I see Hope everywhere.  I see Hope so much in like what you are doing.  In the stories of others.   I love hearing what people have gone through and how they came out on the other side.  And I think for many we kind of hold that back.  We think it’s no big deal but people need to hear that because they are going through situations and they are encouraged to hearing how someone else has gone through the same thing and they came out on the other side.  Because we need Hope.  The world tells us so much that it’s hopeless out there and we forget that there is so much Hope.

How do you find Healing?

I think for a lot of my life, I didn’t understand what Healing was.  I tried to keep a lot of things in my past that I thought were hidden and were painful, and shameful, and dark and nasty.  And it wasn’t until I felt like the Lord was telling me I had to start speaking.  That when you bring things from the darkness into the light, Healing starts to happen.  Not only for you, but for the stories that people are listening to.  We tend to think that my past is so bad that I can’t even forgive myself so what is someone else going to think about me.  But, I love to go back now and look at where I was to see where I am and see the Healing that has been done in my life.  And I go to the word.  I am in the bible all the time because that’s where my Healing came from.  I was told I was incurable but I am cured so here I am today.  And I stand on that and it’s out in the open and it’s out in the light.  There is no shame attached to it.  It’s just my past.  It’s just my story.  And it’s not who I am today but it’s who I was and where I came from. And that’s what Healing has done for me.  It’s to walk into that, into the light.

What do you do find Happiness? 

You know when I deal with so many of my clients they look to other people for their Happiness.  They get mad at their husband because they are like, he doesn’t make me Happy.   But Happiness is a choice.  And Happiness is our responsibility.  My coach always tells me that what we focus on we find.  What we focus on we become.  And, what we focus on expands.  So if I focus on joy, I have more joy.  If I focus on negativity, I only have more negativity.  It’s that law of attraction you know.  You bring to you what you put out.  And Happiness is just a decision I decided to make one day.  Many years ago I told my husband, I said boy if you would have looked up negative Nellie in the dictionary, my picture would have been there.  But, that’s not who I am today because I decided that in everything I am going to be joyful.  It doesn’t mean that I like it.  It doesn’t mean if I was in a car accident I am going to go “Woo Hoo” that was so much fun!  It means that I am going to say, you know what?  I am going to get through this.  And it’s not going to affect me, my attitude and my heart.  I mean, that’s Happiness.  It’s not denying there’s bad things it’s deciding to find joy in the little things.

What do you do consistently every day that helps you in some way?

I get up an hour early than everyone else every single day.  My alarm clock goes off at 5 o’clock every day, and it doesn’t matter what day it is.  Because I find, that if I don’t have that hour to myself, where I read and I write and I journal and I pray, my mindset is not the best. And I would rather have a little less sleep and get through my day with a better attitude and a better outlook than having a little more sleep.  And I so recommend this to everyone that I work with.  And if you have never done that before, you just start with 15 minutes and then if you can bump it up more than that, that is great.  We have to make time for ourselves every single morning before we start our day if we want our day to go better, if we want us to be better that day.

How can people get a hold of you?

I have a blog on my website that they can check out.  I talk a lot about the giants in our life and how to just knock them down because we don’t need to be kept down by them.  We need to sand victorious.  Like I said, I have got two books out - Stepping Into Courage, and Endurance and my third book coming out in three weeks, Reigniting Hope will be out middle to late February (2018).

Website:  www.slayinggiantswithkate.com

Email:  kate@slayinggiantswithkate.com

Facebook:  www.facebook.com/kate.bancroft.94

Blog:  www.5stonesinyourpouch.com

Hope Healing & Happiness with

Chad Gundry - Sales Professional & Family Man

An incredible teller of peoples stories, I originally connected with Chad on Linked In.  He has a knack for honoring people and sharing their unique gifts to the world.  I love following his observations and you will too.  His video will share more but I'll give you a few insights here.

It's no surprise that Chad finds Hope in great stories, Healing in music and good books by great authors, and time with family is where he finds his greatest Happiness.

"I love to inspire others to think of a better way, have a better perspective in life, and ultimately to learn about peoples stories helping them along the way to live a more productive and more inspired life.  ~Chad Gundry

Hope Healing & Happiness with

Dr. Bonnie Nussbaum - The Kickass Coach

Trained in psychotherapy, Bonnie is now helping people move forward faster through her coaching and retreats in Michigan's upper penninsula.  As a creature of routine, she begins her days by creating a motivational video, meditating, and journaling to set the tone for her day.

She finds Hope in the little things, has learned to look within for Healing, and sitting by her bay window with the sun shining through brings incredible Happiness.

Watch this video to hear more from this fabulous woman, what she offers to those fortunate enough to work with her or attend one of her retreats.

"There is such a font of wisdom withing each of us.  When we are trained to go there and do a deep dive inside of ourselves, that is a place for tremendous healing."  ~Dr. Bonnie Nussbaum

Hope Healing & Happiness with

Tisha Hammond, Small Business Cheerleader

Tisha travels the country sharing stories of economic empowerment.  She believes in reinvesting and invigorating our communities so we can create jobs and hire people, and loves changing the face of our communities through the power of hiring.  You absolutely have to hear her inspirational story.

Tisha finds Hope in people, Healing through Jesus, and Happiness by following her mothers lead.

When I interviewed Tisha, I knew I could talk to her for hours.  Our lives aligned in so many different ways.  She has experienced a tremendous amount of loss and learned how to move forward and find value and happiness in life despite the loss.

"I put on one thing every day.  The same thing every day.  And, that is a great attitude."                   ~Tisha Hammond